A
Reader Writes Christmas
I often think that one of the best defining features of
"Britishness" is a shared sense of embarrassment. This was something that was
brought home to me a couple of Advents ago when a feeble joke on my part was met
by a gentle, but nonetheless withering, put-down from an acquaintance who hails
from Serbia.
He had just told me that, for the first time since moving to
the UK, he and his wife would be spending Christmas here, rather than amongst
family and friends in Serbia. Knowing that he had not had the best of years, I
tried to lighten the mood by joking that if he got to the sales on Boxing Day he
could stock up on presents and food at bargain rates, because the Serbian Orthodox Church
celebrates Christmas
Day on January 7.
The attempt at levity was met with a baleful stare and the
response that "We don't celebrate like you": Christmas Day, he explained, was a
time for family and friends to share a meal; the presents are handed out in New
Year"s Day, but not on the scale that we have here.
Rather than lightening his mood, I felt I'd left it
considerably darker, and, in the embarrassing moments that followed I wanted to
kick myself for dragging commercial considerations into the equation. As the
economic situation is now much worse than it was when I made the initial gaffe,
I now feel even more embarrassed by the exchange.
In truth, I have felt for several years now that we have two
Christmases; the commercial and the spiritual. And where they both have their
origins in a season of good cheer and mutual celebration, for many, this year will not be "happy"
in the material sense as job insecurity and inflation hit hard.
In another sense, there is an imbalance
between the two Christmases - while the spiritual side seems to be ever more
marginalised, the commercial has, until now, gone from strength to strength,
with the retail trade measuring a "good" Christmas in terms of the percentage
increase in sales year-on-year; feeding material demand in the process. Indeed,
this year, one leading
retailer has spent GBP 5 million on advertising campaign that features a song entitled
Please, Please, Please
Let Me Get What I Want.
While preparation for the commercial Christmas demands time,
patience and a full wallet, preparation for a spiritual Christmas begins with
Advent. A time of preparing ourselves to celebrate the joy of the new at
Christmas, so that we can see the power of God's love, not expensive gifts, as
what people really need, and that the acquisition of possessions is not the be
all and end all.
Perhaps, though, I wasn't too far off the mark
after all with my inappropriate comment, because the simple truth of the
Christmas message does shine out in unexpected places, as in the first
Christmas, where an act of kindness amid the hustle and bustle and demands of
this world ushered in the birth of Jesus. A message so well expressed in final
verse of a favourite poem:
No love that
in a family dwells,
No carolling
in frosty air,
Nor all the
steeple-shaking bells
Can with this
single Truth compare-
That God was
Man in Palestine
And lives
today in Bread and Wine.
Christmas,
John
Betjeman.
I wish you a fruitful Advent of preparation that will lead
to the joy of a happy Christmas celebrating the birth of our Lord, and with
every good wish for the New Year.
David Hyatt.